Emily Bodenheimer, a longtime North Haven resident, died at Eastern Long Island Hospital on Aug. 5 of cardiac arrest following hip surgery. Her age is not known; her sister, Arlene Ball Dempsey, said that “she never gave it out.”
Ms. Bodenheimer was born to Andrew and Emily Dunne Kauffield in Jamaica Estates, Queens. She moved to North Haven in the late ’70s and to Peconic Landing, the retirement home in Greenport, in 2002, spending the last few years at its nursing home, the Shores Care Center.
Her sister reported that Ms. Bodenheimer often told people, “Nobody had more fun than I did.” She learned to sail as a teenager in Sayville, and liked to ski in Vermont in the winters. In the late ’60s she met Henry Meyenberg, whom Ms. Dempsey called the love of her life, at the Sun and Surf Club in Atlantic Beach. They would sing together around the piano at Bobby Van’s, spend New Year’s Eve at the American Hotel, and vacation in some of Ms. Bodenheimer’s favorite places, Paris, Key West, and San Diego among them.
“She was a one-of-a-kind, quite a fashionista,” a male nurse at the Shores told her sister. “She never went to breakfast without her makeup.”
Ms. Bodenheimer, said Ms. Dempsey, dearly loved her San Diego niece and nephews, Sue, John, and Skip Malthaner, and treated them as though they were her own children. She was a constant companion to Cathy Healy, her best friend, whom she met during their freshman year at the Mary Louis Academy in Jamaica Estates.
Before she moved to the North Fork, Ms. Bodenheimer was a devoted member of the Sag Harbor Tree Fund as well as the Friends of the John Jermain Library. She spent countless hours, said her sister, on the deck of her North Haven house, admiring the view of Fresh Pond.
The Rev. Thomas Murray of St. Agnes Catholic Church in Greenport celebrated a funeral Mass there on Aug. 8. In addition to her sister, who lives on North Haven, Ms. Bodenheimer is survived by two brothers-in-law, Bob Dempsey of North Haven and Jean Malthaner of San Diego.