Barbara Butts, who lived on Pantigo Road in East Hampton, died at Southampton Hospital on May 4, one day after her 99th birthday. She had suffered a series of strokes.
Connie Dankowski, Mrs. Butts’s daughter, said her mother insisted on being well turned out. “She was always dressed like she was going out to lunch with friends. Even after we had a caregiver, even then she dressed. I never saw her in pajamas.”
Mrs. Butts’s appearance seemed in perfect keeping with her afternoon tea ritual. “She liked teatime. You couldn’t visit without getting a cup of tea,” Ms. Dankowski said. Before her mother’s eyesight diminished, the result of macular degeneration, she would bake cookies for tea. She was also a gardener, loved to travel, and loved being with her family.
She was born on May 3, 1913, in Wooster, Mass., a daughter of Marshall Mitchell and the former May Foley. She grew up on North Haven. She was married for many years to Frederick Bahns, and the couple had three children, Connie Dankowski, who lives in Wainscott, and David Bahns of Springs. A third child, Karen Schreiber, predeceased her. Mr. Bahns said his father had 14 siblings and that his mother enjoyed being with the extended family.
After her first husband died, Mrs. Butts married George Butts in 1977. He died two years later. She also is survived by four grandchildren and three great-grandchildren.
A service was held on Monday morning at the Yardley and Pino Funeral Home in East Hampton. The Rev. Donald Hansen officiated. Burial followed at Most Holy Trinity Cemetery.