Patricia M. Carey of East Hampton died at her home here on Tuesday of a neurological disorder after a long illness. She and her husband, who survives, had lived in East Hampton year round for the past two years. She was 75.
Mrs. Carey, whose family described her as “a fashion plate, dear friend, and great contributor,” was born on Jan. 24, 1938, in New York City, the daughter of Thomas and the former Sarah McDermott. She graduated from Marymount College in Manhattan in 1959.
Two years earlier she had met W. Ward Carey, then a student at Iona College, at a party in Southampton. They were married at St. Thomas More Catholic Church in the city on Aug. 29, 1960, and lived in Manhattan and Palm Beach, Fla.
The Careys came to East Hampton in 1978, living first on Dunemere Lane in the village, later on Fieldview Lane, and most recently at Georgica Estates. Mrs. Carey was a member of the Maidstone Club and of the Bath and Tennis Club in Palm Beach. Among her many charities, Boys Harbor, a former summer camp in East Hampton, which now operates a charter school and student programs in Harlem, was one close to her heart.
She was the chairwoman of the Kips Bay Boys and Girls Club Showhouse for 10 years while living in the city, and a eucharistic minister and board member of the woman’s committee of the Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center.
In addition to her husband, Mrs. Carey leaves five children, Ann Diaz of Madrid, Ward Carey of Hillsborough, Calif., Alex Carey of New York City, Daphne Jarrett of East Hampton, and Cynthia Schwartz of Lenox, Mass., as well as 16 grandchildren — 13 boys and 3 girls — who, family said, were her great love.
A memorial Mass will be celebrated at 1:30 p.m. on Tuesday at St. Vincent Catholic Church, Lexington Avenue at 66th Street in Manhattan.