Hathaway M. Barry

June 11, 1951 - March 3, 2013
Hathaway M. Barry, June 11, 1951 - March 3, 2013

    Hathaway Martin Barry, 62, a lifelong resident of North Haven and Sag Harbor who was known as Hap, died at the Hamptons Center for Rehabilitation and Nursing in Southampton on March 3. Mr. Barry, who had had heart problems, was said to have lived an uncomplicated life, employed mostly at the Baron’s Cove Inn, which was owned and operated by his uncle and his father.
    Born at Southampton Hospital to Robert Ira Barry and the former Betty Fay Perkins on June 11, 1951, Mr. Barry was called Happy as a child, which was shortened when he became a teen. “He had that smile right until the end,” said Bonnie Jackson, a stepsister.
    At the age of 12, Mr. Barry fell 75 feet from a cliff in the Idaho Snake River Canyon and was in a coma for the next three months. There followed six months in the hospital with several surgeries. His family said the accident affected him throughout his life. He regularly received rehabilitation and physical therapy.
    Mr. Barry worked at both the Baron’s Cove reception desk and its marina. His co-workers meant the world to him, family members said, and he would do anything for them.
    In his spare time he read a lot and enjoyed television, especially cooking programs, whose recommended recipes he would sometimes try. He also liked to play the lottery, and had great joy when he held a winning ticket.
    He is survived by his former stepmother, Nada Barry of Sag Harbor, two half-brothers, Robert H. Barry of Corvallis, Ore., and Trevor Barry of Pine Island, Fla., and Sag Harbor, and four step-siblings, Bonnie Wingate-Jackson of Sag Harbor, Natasha Sigmund of Brooklyn, Derek Ebeling-Koning of Allison Park, Pa., and Gwen Waddington of Shelter Island. His parents died before him, as did his sister, Beth Marie Barry. Her daughter, Morgan Gallagher of Toronto, survives, as do three other nieces and nephews.
    The family will gather to share stories and a service in June, at a date close to Mr. Barry’s birthday. Memorial donations have been suggested to the Sag Harbor Volunteer Ambulance Corps, P.O. Box 2725, Sag Harbor 11963.