Stella Kremer, a retired marriage and family therapist who had lived for many years in Barnes Landing and Elmont, died on May 3 in hospice in Delray Beach, Fla. She was 85 and had been receiving treatment for acute myeloid leukemia.
For many years, Ms. Kremer, who was known as Dolly, and her husband, Dr. Herman Saling Kremer, had a house on Water’s Edge in Barnes Landing, Springs; it became their full-time home in the 1980s. After her husband died, she sold the house and moved to Huckleberry Lane in East Hampton.
Ms. Kremer was a graduate of Far Rockaway High School and Queens College. She received a master’s degree in history from Columbia University Teachers College in 1948, and, later, a master’s in counseling from Hofstra University and a certificate in marriage and family counseling from the Alfred Adler Institute in Manhattan.
In her professional life, she first worked as a school guidance counselor in New York City, then in private practice as a marriage and family therapist in Elmont.
She was among the founders of Temple B’nai Israel in Elmont and an active member for many years, her family said. In East Hampton she was active with the Jewish Center of the Hamptons.
Her mother, the former Gertrude Shapiro, had been involved in the early days of Hadassah, the Zionist women’s organization, and, drawing on that inspiration, Ms. Kremer was very involved in the group as well as at her temple. She loved travel, reading, art, learning, and Israel. Her family said that she valued education, family, friends, bringing people together, volunteering, world affairs, politics, book clubs, and discussion groups.
She adored sunshine and being at the beach, her family said, and with her “tremendous energy” was always ready for new adventures and activities, including jewelry making, photography, and bridge.
She was born in New York City on June 18, 1927, to the former Ms. Shapiro and Elias Wolfson. Five children survive her: Jane Greenberg of Burlington, Vt., Mark Kremer of Denver, Stephen Kremer of Merrick, Rosabel Day of Auburndale, Mass., and Wendy Graney of East Quogue, as well as 10 grandchildren.
Her funeral was on May 5 at the Jewish Center of the Hamptons. She was buried at Mount Ararat Cemetery in Farmingdale.
Ms. Kremer’s family has suggested donations in her memory to the Jewish Center of the Hamptons, 44 Woods Lane, East Hampton 11937, or to Hadassah.org.