Marianne Toy of Sag Harbor Village, whose smile was the first thing people noticed about her, her family said, died on Aug. 5 at Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center in New York City. She was 60 and had been diagnosed with lung cancer in May.
“She was very caring and concerned about other people and whatever they were going through,” her daughter Emily Toy said. “But she was also very practical and honest. She’d tell you what you needed to know, even if you didn’t want to hear it.”
Even during her illness, she was thinking of others. She wrote her husband, Jerome, and her daughters, Rachel and Megan Toy in addition to Emily, telling them how lucky she felt to have had such a wonderful family to spend her life loving.
Born in Newark on May 29, 1954, to Ellis Faraday and Mary Burns Faraday, she was proud to share a birthday with President John F. Kennedy.
Her family moved to Sag Harbor when she was 2. She spent most of her life, including the last 15 years, in the same house on Jermain Avenue across the street from Pierson High School, from which she graduated in 1972.
A hard worker, she had a number of jobs in her younger years, including running a cleaning service, working as a florist, and working at several restaurants. For the last 15 years, she worked at the Hampton Dental Group in Southampton, first as an assistant and later as a member of the reception team.
She met her husband at the Corner Bar in Sag Harbor in 1978. They were married in 1986.
Her family was her focus. She loved to cook and host family and friends. She was passionate about food and “had a great palate,” Emily Toy said.
Her most cherished moments were spent relaxing and having a good time with loved ones, her family said. She enjoyed the beach and took pleasure in planting flowers in her yard. She was an enthusiastic reader and was especially excited for her daughters as they began to pursue careers in the arts.
In addition to her husband and children, all of whom live in Sag Harbor, Mrs. Toy is survived by two brothers, William Faraday of Rockville Centre and Robert Faraday of Plymouth, Mass., and a sister, Ellen Sowa of Wareham, Mass.
The family received friends on Sunday at the Yardley and Pino Funeral Home in Sag Harbor. A Mass was celebrated on Monday at St. Andrew’s Catholic Church in the village, followed by burial at the church’s cemetery.