Siri Reckler

Siri Reckler had “a larger-than-life personality that filled any room she entered,” her family said. “She drank Scotch, loved a good cocktail party, and threw many fabulous get-togethers on her deck” in Springs, where for more than 50 years she was a summer resident of Gerard Drive.

She was also known for her New Year’s Day parties where family, neighbors, and friends would gather. “ ‘Come over for a drink’ was a favorite saying,” her family said.

Mrs. Reckler, who also lived in Scarsdale, N.Y., died in her sleep on Feb. 16 at Calvary Hospital in the Bronx after a prolonged illness. She was 85.

Throughout her life, “She never stopped doing, seeing, going, commenting, or learning,” her family said. “She was a tough critic. She was a voracious reader, but disliked most books. She loved to dine out, but returned most meals to the kitchen.”

She was born Sarah Zarco on Nov. 4, 1929, in New York City to Turkish-Jewish immigrants, Bohor Zarco and the former Leah Valensi. She grew up on the Lower East Side and graduated from Seward Park High School and a secretarial school. She held a variety of secretarial and office manager positions at many companies, taking brief sabbaticals to care for her young children. She retired in 2000.

In the 1950s, she met Stanley Reckler, who was known as Rick, at a party. The story goes he arrived with two dates, but left with her. After a long courtship, they were married one June day in the early 1960s.

When her children grew up, she fulfilled a lifelong dream of travel and visited many places, among them Israel, Spain, Bosnia and Croatia, China, Thailand, Russia, Japan, and, late in her 70s, India, which she reported was the most interesting of them all.

Mrs. Reckler’s hobbies back home included bridge and going to the theater, the opera, museums, and the movies. She also enjoyed rummaging for underpriced items at garage sales.

Her husband died in July of 2000. She was also predeceased by a brother, Sol Zarco, and a sister, Bella Singer, who had a house on Sammy’s Beach Road in East Hampton for many years.

She is survived by two daughters, Nancy Reckler Frankel of Westport, Conn., and Leslie Reckler of Kensington, Calif. Six grandchildren and many nieces and nephews also survive.

A service was held at Plaza Jewish Community Chapel in New York City on Feb. 24. The Rabbi Alysa Mendelson Graf of Port Jewish Center in Port Washington officiated. Mrs. Reckler’s ashes will be buried this summer at Shaarey Pardes Accabonac Grove Cemetery in Springs.

Memorial contributions have been suggested to the Friends of Eastchester Public Library, 11 Oakridge Place, Eastchester, N.Y. 10709, the Memorial Sloan-Kettering Cancer Center, 1275 York Avenue, New York City 10065, or Calvary Hospital, 1740 Eastchester Road, Bronx 10461. All three accept donations online.