E. Heppenheimer

June 11, 1929 - July 13, 2012
Emmeline Dore Sands Heppenheimer

    Emmeline Dore Sands Heppenheimer, a longtime resident of East Hampton, died on July 13 at home on Chauncey Close. She was 83, and had been diagnosed with colon cancer two years ago.
    Born to Howard A. Sands and the former Muriel Winthrop in New York City on June 11, 1929, Mrs. Heppenheimer grew up spending summers in Newport, R.I., and winters in the city. She was a descendant of Peter Stuyvesant and of John Winthrop, an early governor of Massachusetts, and of Comfort Sands, who, with Alexander Hamilton, founded the Bank of New York.
    She attended the Chapin School in Manhattan as a child. Later, after the family moved to a farm in Portsmouth, R.I., she went to Miss Wheeler’s School in Providence, R.I.
     “She was a child of Newport,” said her son, William S. Heppenheimer. She was introduced to society in Newport in 1948 and married William C. Heppenheimer III in 1953, on her birthday. Her husband died in 2009.
    Her son remembers coming to East Hampton as a young boy. “We were related to the Chauncey family through my father,” he said. “They built a house for my parents as a wedding present,” on Briar Patch Road.
    In the late ’70s, the elder Mr. Heppenheimer began the development of the 124-acre Cove Hollow Farm on Georgica Pond, and the family moved to their East Hampton house year round. Mr. Heppenheimer eventually became president of the Maidstone Club, where his wife was esteemed as a fine golf and tennis player. She also belonged to the Colony Club in Manhattan and the Newport Country Club in Rhode Island.
     “She was a very talented artist,” said Mr. Heppenheimer. “She loved painting animals and doing découpage. She was in charge of the decorations at the Maidstone.”
     “Our door was always open,” he added. “All my friends adored her. She loved gardening and cooking and children.” After their own two children grew up, the Heppenheimers adopted Labrador retrievers.
    Besides Mr. Heppenheimer, who lives in Sag Harbor, she leaves a daughter, Anita Holmes of East Hampton, and four grandchildren. She was cremated, and her ashes will be buried at Cedar Lawn Cemetery at a future date. “We’ll have a celebration of her life,” her son said.
    The family has suggested donations in her memory for Southampton Hospital.