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Morton Deutsch, 97

Morton Deutsch, 97

Feb. 4, 1920 - March 13, 2017
By
Star Staff

Morton Deutsch, who founded the International Center for Cooperation and Conflict Resolution at Columbia University (now renamed for him) died on March 13 in New York City. He was 97.

Mr. Deutsch was known worldwide as an expert on conflict resolution and his extensive research was known around the world,  providing a framework for several Cold War negotiations, assisting in the peaceful transfer of power in Poland in 1989, helping to overturn racial segregation in the United States, and training teachers on Long Island and in New Jersey to deal with inter-student and gang violence in low-income communities.

“The Handbook of Conflict Resolution: Theory and Practice,” which he edited with Peter T. Coleman and Eric C. Marcus, became a standard manual for labor, commercial, international, and marital disputes.

Morton Deutsch was born on Feb. 4, 1920, in the Bronx, to Charles and Ida Deutsch, Jewish immigrants from Poland. By the age of 10, he was reading Karl Marx, and by 15, he was enrolled at City College of New York. After dissecting a guinea pig in a biology class, he switched his major from psychiatry to psychology and received a bachelor of science degree in 1939. Continuing his education, he received a master’s degree in 1940 from the University of Pennsylvania and a Ph.D. in 1948 from the Massachusetts Institute of Technology. It was there that he studied under Kurt Lewin, a German-American psychologist known as one of the modern pioneers of social, organizational, and applied psychology.

It was also at M.I.T. that he met his wife, Lydia Shapiro, when he was assigned to supervise a paper she had written for Mr. Lewin. They married on June 1, 1947, and remained together for almost seven decades. Marriage also prompted a book titled “Preventing World War III,” which he co-wrote.

Growing up in New York City during the early part of the last century, Mr. Deutsch experienced blatant prejudice against Jews and observed “gross acts of injustice being suffered by blacks,” according to an essay in his book “Reflections on 100 Years of Experimental Social Psychology.”

Over the years, Mr. Deutsch contributed money to the Spanish Loyalists in the 1930s, protested against high school cafeteria food, and took part in a strike by fellow waiters at a summer resort. After Pearl Harbor, he enlisted in the Army Air Force and flew 30 missions over Nazi-occupied Europe.

Mr. Deutsch began teaching in the Research Center for Human Relations at New York University, and in 1951, together with a co-worker, Mary Evans Collins, produced a study comparing racially integrated housing in New York with racially segregated housing in Newark. Their research ultimately led to a reversal of policy in publicly funded developments.

In 1963, he made his final professorial move, joining the faculty at Teachers College, Columbia University, after being invited to found a social psychology doctoral program there. It became the International Center for Cooperation and Conflict Resolution. Two major works during this period include what is considered his opus, “The Resolution of Conflict,” published in 1973.

Mr. Deutsch officially retired from teaching in 1990 and became professor emeritus of psychology and education at Columbia University. He also wrote more than 50 papers or book chapters between his retirement and recent years.

He and his wife had a house in Springs for 50 years, where they enjoyed spending weekends and extended periods until the house was sold two years ago. In addition to his wife, Mr. Deutsch is survived by two sons, Tony Deutsch, who lives in Florida, and Nick Deutsch, a cardiac anesthesiologist in Los Angeles, and by four grandchildren and one great-granddaughter.

John L. Damiecki, 91

John L. Damiecki, 91

Feb. 20, 1926 - Jan. 26, 2017
By
Star Staff

John L. Damiecki, a member of a Bridgehampton potato-farming family, died of complications of pneumonia in West Palm Beach, Fla., on Jan. 26, with several family members by his bedside. He was 91.

Mr. Damiecki was a son of Polish immigrants, many of whom came to the East End at the turn of the 20th century. A champion of farmland preservation as he grew older, he owned vast tracts of land here, not only in Bridgehampton but also in East Hampton and Amagansett. Kenneth Damiecki of Bridgehampton, a nephew, recalled that after his uncle retired he cultivated a large, beautiful vegetable garden and was generous with its produce. He was a great storyteller, his nephew said, with a quick wit and sense of humor.

John Leon Damiecki was born at home in Bridgehampton on Feb. 20, 1926, one of seven children of Marcel Damiecki and the former Helena Berkoski. He attended the Bridgehampton School before joining the family farming business. He was a member of the Bridgehampton Fire Department, an honorary member of the Springs Fire Department, and a member of the Elks Lodge and the Long Island Farm Bureau.

Mr. Damiecki began spending time in Florida in the 1970s, always returning in the spring to Bridgehampton. He was a longtime parishioner at Most Holy Trinity Catholic Church in East Hampton, where he served as an usher. His marriage to the former Anna Danowski ended in divorce.

She died before him, as did his sisters Sophie Kosinski and Jay Skretch, both of Bridgehampton, and Lois Beck of St. James, and his brother, Edward Damiecki, also of Bridgehampton.

He is survived by his son, Marcel Damiecki, his daughter, Susan Kosowski of Riverhead, two grandchildren, two great-grandchildren, his sisters Stephanie Pfeiffer of Hudson, Fla., and Marcella De Muth Gintowt of West Palm Beach. A dozen or more nieces and nephews, many great-nieces and great-nephews, and five great-great-nieces and great-great-nephews survive as well.

Mr. Damiecki was cremated. A memorial Mass will be said at Most Holy Trinity on June 10, with burial following at Sacred Hearts Cemetery in Southampton. Memorial donations have been suggested to the Gwen L. Kosinski Foundation Inc., 318 Roanoke Avenue, Riverhead 11901.

Sondra E. Anderson, Former A&P Butcher

Sondra E. Anderson, Former A&P Butcher

May 9, 1939 - March 19, 2017
By
Star Staff

Sondra E. Anderson, who was, in her neighbor Gordon Ryan’s words, “a real old-time Lazy Pointer,” died in her sleep at home there on March 19. Ms. Anderson, who was once a butcher at the A&P on Newtown Lane in East Hampton, now Stop and Shop, was 77.

Ms. Anderson was married three times. Her first marriage was brief and, in 1966, she married Arthur Davis. They lived on McGuirk Street in East Hampton for many years, and eventually moved to a house on Shore Road in the Lazy Point neighborhood of Amagansett, which had been put together from shacks and moved back from the end of the road near the beach.

Living there full time, the couple enjoyed going to an old bar and restaurant called Merrill’s Irish Mist, where, in 1959, a complete roast beef dinner cost $2.50 and there was music for dancing from 10 p.m. to 2 a.m. The couple also enjoyed fishing in Gardiner’s Bay from outboard boats that were inevitably named Sandy.

After Mr. Davis’s death, Ms. Anderson married Kenneth Anderson of Lazy Point, a childhood friend. He died in 1992. Ms. Anderson, who gradually lost her eyesight, could be seen walking or riding an electric scooter on Cranberry Hole Road to get to St. Michael’s Lutheran Church in Amagansett. “She was a tough old bird,” Mr. Ryan said.

She had been a babysitter for his children, he said, and in recent years he helped her by running errands, doing simple chores, finding her cat, and stringing Christmas lights, among other tasks. He drove her to church after her sight was gone.

She had a number of cats and dogs over the years and another neighbor, Mike Walton, found a home for her last cat. In the last few years, the police were called so often by her LifeAlert device that they kept a key to her house in the garage. At the time of her death, plans were being made for Ms. Anderson to move to an upstate care facility. 

Mr. Ryan remembered Ms. Anderson and her third husband driving in a dark maroon, wood-paneled Jeep Wagoneer. She would be at the wheel, operating the pedals and the turn signals even though her sight was going, while he sat in the passenger seat giving directions. Once pulled over for driving without headlights, she lost her license when she had to take, and failed, a road test.

Ms. Anderson, who was born on May 9, 1939, in Pennsylvania, was adopted by Stuart Turner and the former Elizabeth Werner. Little information about her early life was known by her Lazy Point friends.

A memorial service will be held at St. Michael’s Church on a date to be announced,  with the interim pastor, the Rev. Robert Modr, presiding. She was buried at Fort Hill Cemetery in Montauk.

In the 1980s, Ms. Anderson asked Mr. Ryan, a lawyer, to help her write a will. It said that if her property was sold after her death,  the proceeds should go to the Animal Rescue Fund of the Hamptons, Save the Children, or Greenpeace. Memorial donations therefore have been suggested to Save the Children, 501 Kings Highway East, Suite 400, Fairfield, Conn. 06825, or online at savethechildren.org, and the Animal Rescue Fund of the Hamptons, P.O. Box 901, Wainscott 11975.

Barbara Tobin Reid

Barbara Tobin Reid

May 6, 1936 - April, 05, 2017
By
Star Staff

Barbara Tobin Reid, who taught children with learning disabilities at New York’s St. Luke’s Hospital as well as privately until her retirement in 2000, died at her Amagansett house on Wednesday morning, just before her 81st birthday, with her family by her side.  The cause was cancer, her husband said.

Ms. Reid was born in New York City, the daughter of Lillian and Louis Tobin, on May 6, 1936. After graduating from the Birch Wathen School and Vassar College, she became an editor for McGraw Hill Publishing Company. She then pursued an interest in special education at Manhattan’s Bank Street College. Her family said she was revered as a teacher, noting that a former student had written saying she had inspired her to earn a master’s degree in special education, also from Bank Street College, and have a teaching career.

She and Harvey Reid were married in 1960, and left their jobs to spend their first married year traveling abroad. They began spending summer weekends in Amagansett in 1972, becoming full-time residents in 2009.  Ms. Reid often could be found, rain or shine, working in her flower and vegetable garden, which her family said was beautiful. A constant reader, her summer days often began at dawn on Indian Wells Beach in Amagansett with a John le Carré spy novel or a new biography. She also made time for her other passion, preparing favorite recipes for family and friends, with dinner parties inevitably lasting long into the night. In addition, she loved theater, rnusic, and film, and the programs at New York City’s Symphony Space. 

Her family described her as bright, cheerful, and funny, and said her “spunk and sparkle” resonates in each of them.

In addition to her husband, Ms. Reid is survived by two sons, David Reid, who lives in Pisac, Peru, and Michael Reid, who lives in New York City.

Memorial donations have been suggested to The New York Times Neediest Cases Fund, P.O. Box 5193, New York 10087, or the Amagansett Village Improvement Society, P.O. Box 611, Amagansett 11930

For Daria Deshuk

For Daria Deshuk

By
Star Staff

A memorial service for Daria Deshuk will be held at Guild Hall on April 22 at 7 p.m. Ms. Deshuk, an artist who lived in Bridgehampton, died on March 9. Friends and family have been invited to share their memories and stories. Her artwork will be on display.

Wanda Rosado

Wanda Rosado

By
Star Staff

The Star has received word that Wanda Rosado of East Hampton died on Sunday. She was 57. The family will receive visitors on Saturday at the Yardley and Pino Funeral Home in East Hampton from 11 a.m. to noon, where a service will be held. She will be buried at Cedar Lawn Cemetery in East Hampton.

A full obituary will appear in a future issue.

Anita Ober, 81

Anita Ober, 81

Aug. 24, 1935 - Feb. 02, 2017
By
Star Staff

Anita Ober, who had had a house in Springs since the late 1960s, died in Philadelphia at the Hahnemann University Hospital on Feb. 2 at the age of 81. She had been in deteriorating health for some time, suffering from Parkinson’s Disease as well as diabetes.

Ms. Ober was born out of wedlock to two teenagers, both 15 years old, in Mannheim, Germany, on Aug. 24, 1935. She never knew who her birth father was while he was alive. Her childhood was difficult, according to Mickey Rowley, a close friend whom Ms. Ober considered a stepson. Hitler and the Nazi Party had taken over Germany two years before her birth; she was 4 years old at the outset of World War II. From 1940 until Germany’s surrender in 1945, Mannheim was the target of more than 150 bombing raids by the Allies. Blackouts and explosions were an ongoing reality for her during those childhood years.

She was raised first by her mother’s parents, then was adopted by her birth mother, Anita, and her mother’s new husband, Aleksandar Ober, shortly after the war. While she had been very close to her grandparents, she was extremely unhappy with her new family. Later, she researched the life of her birth father, Peter Fuchs, found out where he was buried, and obtained a picture of the grave, which she displayed in her house until the end.

Ms. Ober frequently told Mr. Rowley that she had only 50 cents in her pocket when she immigrated to the United States in 1962. Then 27 years old, she initially worked as a domestic helper, cooking and cleaning. She eventually took a job as an administrative assistant for the German chemical company BASF. She then moved on to another German corporation, Henkel Chemical, where she remained until her retirement in 1994. She had risen to the position of vice president and chief operating officer in Henkel’s U.S. division, headquartered on Madison Avenue. She was responsible for all travel arrangements for the company’s employees, and traveled the world frequently, something she enjoyed.

She developed a close relationship with a fellow German, Gotfried Durr. That relationship lasted 16 years, ending in 1992, with Mr. Durr moving back to Germany.

She began coming to Springs in about 1967 or 1968, while keeping an apartment in Manhattan. She loved speculating on properties in Springs. She bought one property in the late 1960s, then another. The second was a house under construction on Manor Lane. She eventually sold both properties at a handsome profit. After her breakup with Mr. Durr, she decided to retire from the business world, and purchased land on Woodcrest Drive, personally designing a new house there. Before she bought the land, she had Mr. Rowley climb a tree to see if there was a view of the harbor. There was.

“She loved walking on the beach,” Mr. Rowley said. She enjoyed reading, and loved to cook. She would go to the farm stands and to Stuart’s Fish Market in Amagansett to shop, and took it personally if one did not stay for dinner. She was a volunteer for many years at Guild Hall in East Hampton.

In her will, she left large gifts to Guild Hall, Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center, Doctors Without Borders, and various smaller nonprofits, as well as bequests to an artist friend and a woman who had helped her with household chores.

A celebration of her life will be held at Ashawagh Hall in Springs this summer, when a memorial bench is installed. Mr. Rowley suggested that those interested in participating might visit the “Remembering Anita Ober” Facebook page for updates and further details.

Barbara Ann Marasco

Barbara Ann Marasco

Aug. 31, 1934 - April 01, 2017
By
Star Staff

Barbara Ann Marasco, a conservationist, gardener, and birdwatcher, died of pneumonia on April 1 in Stuart, Fla., at the age of 82. Although she and her husband had spent winters there for the last 20 years, she considered East Hampton her home and cherished nature’s seasonal variations here.

She was born on Aug. 31, 1934, in Teaneck, N.J., to Harry Seeback and the former Edith Cundy. She grew up in Ridgefield Park, N.J., and graduated from Ridgefield Park High School, where, at the age of 13, she met Ronald Marasco, who was to be her husband for 63 years. They were married in August 1953.

Although the Marascos reared their six children in Washington Township, N.J., it was the house near Three Mile Harbor, which they built in 1979 for weekends and later extended,  that became a mecca for their family. It was called Harbor House at first, eventually becoming known simply as Grandma’s House.

Ms. Marasco traveled all over the world with her husband, who worked with international airlines, but she was never happier than in the spring, when she returned to East Hampton from Stuart, her family said, delighted to be back in her garden and able to walk only 100 yards to get to the harbor. She loved the simplicity of East Hampton’s environment, they said. She also volunteered with R.S.V.P., a small organization whose volunteers call older East Hampton Town residents regularly to make sure they are okay.

The couple’s six children, who survive, are Kathy Brown of Stamford, Conn., Karyn Gutierrez of New Canaan, Conn., Karyl Carlson of Simsbury, Conn., Ron Marasco Jr. of Stamford, Conn., Michael Marasco of Valencia, Calif., and Maria Marasco of Folly Beach, S.C. Also surviving are nine grandchildren and two great-grandchildren.

The family received visitors on Friday at the Yardley and Pino Funeral Home in East Hampton. Ms. Marasco’s life was celebrated at a funeral Mass on Saturday at 9:30 a.m. at Most Holy Trinity Catholic Church in East Hampton, the Rev. Msgr. Donald M. Hanson officiating. Ms. Marasco, who had been a parishioner there for 40 years, was buried at the church cemetery. Seven grandsons were pallbearers at the funeral, and her youngest daughter, Maria Marasco, participated in reading from the Scriptures. Her granddaughters Kristen Gutierrez and Christine Brown spoke, and her oldest son, Ron, gave a eulogy, speaking of his mother’s love of family and quoting from St. Paul’s soliloquy on love.

Ms. Marasco loved dogs and was a supporter of the Animal Rescue Fund of the Hamptons. The family therefore suggested memorial donations to ARF, P.O. Box 901, Wainscott 11975.

Charles Garrett, Scientist

Charles Garrett, Scientist

Sept. 15, 1925 - April 08, 2017
By
Star Staff

Charles Garrett, a physicist, author, and educator in scientific research and a 47-year resident of Fithian Lane in East Hampton, died of cardiac failure on Saturday at the Hamptons Center for Rehabilitation and Nursing in Southampton. He was 91 and had been ill for five weeks.

From 1952 to 1954, Dr. Garrett was a member of the technical staff at Bell Laboratories in Murray Hill, N.J. From 1960 to 1969, he led its optical-electronics research department and technical staff. He then went on to the position of director of AT&T Bell Labs, until 1987 studying semiconductor surfaces and advocating presciently for the belief that optical fiber cables were the way of the future. Dr. Garrett lived in New York City from 1970 to 1987, when he became a year-round resident of East Hampton.

Charles Geoffrey Blythe Garrett was born in Ashford, in the county of Kent, England, on Sept. 15, 1925, to Charles Alfred Blythe Garrett and the former Laura Marie Lotinga. He grew up there, attending the Tonbridge School. In 1946, he received first class honors in part two of the Natural Sciences Tripos at Cambridge University. He went on to engage in research in low-temperature physics at the Royal Society Mond Laboratory. He earned a Ph.D. in physics from Cambridge in 1950.

He moved to the United States that year, following an invitation to join the faculty at Harvard University. There, he served as an instructor in physics.

Dr. Garrett’s work focused on the thermodynamics of magnetic cooling experiments, thermal conductivity of paramagnetic salts, nuclear hyperfine structures, specific heat, and critical field effects in magnetic order-disorder phenomena. His department was responsible for many significant developments in laser research, and he collaborated in the experiments that first extended laser techniques to the far infrared.

He was chairman of the Gordon Research Conference on nonlinear optics and wrote the books “Magnetic Cooling,” in 1954, and “Gas Lasers,” in 1956.

Dr. Garrett also played the piano, harpsichord, and carillon, and was a member of the Guild of Carillonneurs in North America. With then-President Lyndon Johnson in attendance, he performed a solo concert of carillon at the National Episcopal Cathedral in Washington, D.C. He was also passionate about antique Bentley and Rolls-Royce automobiles, as well as the early-18th-century houses of East Hampton. A preservationist, he spent many hours restoring his own East Hampton residence. He became an American citizen in 1989. 

Dr. Garrett, who was cremated, is survived by his partner of 56 years, Jacques Henri Peltier of East Hampton. A memorial service will be held on May 20 at 1 p.m. at St. Luke’s Episcopal Church in East Hampton. The Rev. Denis Brunelle will preside.

Memorial contributions have been suggested to the East Hampton Meals on Wheels program, 33 Newtown Lane, Suite 205, East Hampton 11937 or ehmealsonwheels.org, or to Doctors Without Borders at doctorswithoutborders.org.

Barbara Marasco

Barbara Marasco

By
Star Staff

Visiting hours for Barbara Marasco, who died on Saturday in Florida, will be tomorrow from 2 to 4 and 7 to 9 p.m. at the Yardley and Pino Funeral Home in East Hampton. A funeral Mass for her will be celebrated on Saturday morning at 9:30 at Most Holy Trinity Catholic Church in East Hampton. Ms. Marasco was 82 and lived on Duke Drive, East Hampton, and Stuart, Fla. An obituary will appear in a future issue.