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Aileen Brody

Aileen Brody

Concertizer and Piano Teacher
By
Star Staff

Aileen F. Brody, 81, an East Hampton resident since the 1990s, died on Friday. Her family said she had been ill for a short time.

Music was an important element of Mrs. Brody’s life. She earned a bachelor’s degree in the teaching of piano skills from the University of Hartford’s Hartt School of Music, and went on to give piano concerts and private lessons. She passed her love of music to her only child, Martha Brody, and together they performed recitals at the Jewish Center of the Hamptons.

Born in Bainbridge, N.Y., to Morris Fuchs and the former Rose Reines, Mrs. Brody grew up in Hartford and in New York City. She was married to Alan E. Brody on Feb. 1, 1953.

They vacationed in East Hampton for several years, and made it their full-time home after Mr. Brody retired. “She never stopped being amazed and grateful that she was able to live in such a beautiful place,” her daughter wrote.

Mrs. Brody volunteered here for The Retreat and Meals on Wheels, as well as for the East Hampton Ambulance Corps. She practiced yoga, loved gardening and animals, believed in a healthy diet, and tried to get to Main Beach every day, rain or shine, said her daughter.

Services for her will be held at a date to be announced.

Memorial donations have been suggested for the Animal Rescue Fund, P.O. Box 901, Wainscott 11975; The Retreat, 13 Goodfriend Drive, East Hampton, or the East Hampton Volunteer Ambulance Association, 1 Cedar Street, East Hampton.

 

 

George Proferes, 75

George Proferes, 75

Of the Old Paradise
By
Star Staff

George Thomas Proferes, a longtime owner of the Paradise restaurant in Sag Harbor Village, which was in his family for close to 80 years, died at Huntington Hospital on Friday. He was 75 and had pneumonia, after having had lung problems for 30 years, his wife, Carroll Proferes, said.

Mr. Proferes grew up in the restaurant business. His father’s uncle started the restaurant, under the name the Sag Harbor Candy Kitchen, in June 1914, in the Main Street building where the Variety Store is now. His father later took over the business, and, in 1941, around the time it moved farther south on Main Street, the name was changed to the Paradise.

His family remembered him as “a great role model,” not only for his children, but also for dozens of Sag Harbor teenagers whom he employed at his restaurant over the years. “He befriended them all and taught them the value of hard work and of having a little fun too,” his family wrote.

After he sold the business in 1990, he continued to work — at the deli counter at Dreesen’s and then at Schmidt’s, which went on to become the Hampton Market Place, both in East Hampton. He worked until his knees gave out, his wife said. He stayed on the job because “he liked all the people,” she said.

In recent years, Mr. Proferes could be found working for the Sag Harbor Chamber of Commerce in the windmill at Long Wharf during the summer, telling people all about the village in which he grew up. He was also a member of the Sag Harbor Lions Club. During Harborfest, just a couple of weeks before he died, he was happy to see so many of his neighbors and old friends.

“When he sold the Paradise, he always told his customers, ‘You’re going to miss me when I’m gone,’ and they surely did,” his family said.

He was born at Southampton Hospital on Nov. 6, 1938, to Theodore N. Proferes and the former Mary Elizabeth Sherry. Growing up on Hampton Street, he was the third of six children. After he graduated from Pierson High School in 1956, he went to work in the restaurant until he was drafted. He served in the Army from 1961 to 1963.

Mr. Proferes met Carroll Olsen while she was spending the summer with her family in Sag Harbor. They married in 1960 and raised four children in the village. They moved to Wickatuck Drive in Noyac eight years ago.

In addition to his wife of 54 years, he is survived by three children, Thomas Proferes of San Diego, Tracey Proferes Signore of Suffern, N.Y., and Jody Proferes Miller of Sag Harbor. Another daughter, Nicole Marie Proferes, died before him.

He leaves five siblings: Nicholas Proferes of Astoria, Queens, Donald Proferes of Huntington, Theodora DiSunno of Amagansett, Christine Becker of Wainscott, and Frances Swift of La Crosse, Wisc. Three grandchildren, who affectionately referred to him as “Grumpa,” and many nieces and nephews also survive.

A wake was held on Monday at the Yardley and Pino Funeral Home in Sag Harbor. A funeral service was held on Tuesday at St. Andrew’s Catholic Church in the village, followed by burial at St. Andrew’s Cemetery.

Memorial donations have been suggested to the Sag Harbor Fire Department, P.O. Box 209, Sag Harbor 11963, or the Sag Harbor Volunteer Ambulance Corps, P.O. Box 2725, Sag Harbor.

William G. Abel, M.D.

William G. Abel, M.D.

Well-Known Surgeon
By
Star Staff

William G. Abel, East Hampton’s pre-eminent surgeon as well as the chief of surgery at Southampton Hospital for many years, died on Aug. 15 at his home on Baiting Hollow Road here. He was 92.

Dr. Abel, a graduate of Columbia College and Columbia University’s College of Physicians and Surgeons, had two years of military service and a senior residence in surgery at St. Vincent’s Hospital in Manhattan behind him when, in 1952, he came to East Hampton to work with Dr. David Edwards. Later, at the East Hampton Medical Group, where he practiced for more than 30 years, he became well known to local residents and was widely respected. In the late 1980s, Dr. Abel moved on to serve in the breast cancer unit at Stony Brook University Hospital.

Wherever he went in his later years, Dr. Abel, a man known for forthright action and few words, encountered former patients who reminded him of  successful surgeries or recalled his delivery of a baby or two. Mary-Elizabeth Gifford, a former resident, credited him with saving her mother’s life in 1962 by performing emergency surgery after another Southampton Hospital physician called in a priest to administer last rites. The 27-year-old patient had suffered a broken neck and other severe injuries in an auto accident.

William George Abel was born to Delylah and William Abel in Birmingham, Ala., on Feb. 10, 1922. He and his wife, the former Helen Marie Thomsen, and a 3-year-old daughter lived first on Barns Lane in the village.

Over the years, Dr. Abel was a member of the East Hampton Village Board and Fire Department and president of the East Hampton Lions Club. He was a member or director of many medical associations, including the National Board of Medical Examiners. He was on the teaching faculty of the American Board of Abdominal Surgery and chairman of the trauma committee of the American College of Surgeons.

He also chaired the Suffolk County Traffic Safety Board, belonged to the New York State Disaster Committee and the Suffolk County Police Association, and was the medical officer for East Hampton Town civil defense.

When not otherwise engaged, Dr. Abel was a naturalist. He enjoyed hunting and fishing and, with his wife, gave several talks at the East Hampton Library on wildlife and wildflowers. An interview published in The East Hampton Star in 1971 took note of his crew cut and his paneled home office, decorated with decoys and plants.

He decried drinking and driving, saying that three times as many people had been killed as a result of traffic accidents in this country since the turn of the 20th century than in all its wars. He also argued that if all ambulances had trained full-time professionals many lives would be saved.

Dr. Abel is survived by his wife, who continues to live on Baiting Hollow Road, and by a daughter, Nancy Abel of Fremont, Calif. His first child, Susan Abel, died before him. No funeral services were held.

 

 

Thomasina Graham, 95

Thomasina Graham, 95

Sept. 12, 1919 - Sept. 27, 2014
By
Star Staff

Thomasina Rana Graham, who was born in Amagansett, died on Sept. 27 at home in Naples, Me. Stewart R. Graham Sr., her husband of more than 70 years, was at her bedside. She was 95.

Known to friends and family as Mae or Maizie, Mrs. Graham was born on Sept. 12, 1919, the second child of Peter and Rose Rana of Amagansett. While working at the former Dominy Guest House in East Hampton, she met her husband, who was serving with the Coast Guard at its old Georgica Station in East Hampton.

Mrs. Graham was small of stature at just five feet, but she had a big heart, said her family. A “bundle of energy” and quick with a smile, she loved “all the many family gatherings throughout her long life.” Her children wrote that she could “bake the best pecan pie.”

The Grahams married on May 24, 1942, in Amityville, and raised their two sons wherever Mr. Graham was stationed. He retired from the Coast Guard as a commander in 1960, after which they settled in Maine. Mrs. Graham was said to have “embraced all the things expected of a service wife” and done them well.

In addition to her husband, who according to a nephew was the second person in United States history to fly a helicopter, she leaves two sons, Ross Graham of Naples and Bill Graham of Jacksonville, Ore., and two grandchildren. Three siblings survive as well. They are Rose Lester of Palm City, Fla., Peter Rana Jr. of Amagansett, and Diana Conklin Voorhees of Wainscott.

Burial was in Maine.

 

 

Madelin­e P. Betts

Madelin­e P. Betts

Nov. 16, 1923 - Sept. 29, 2014
By
Star Staff

Madeline Patricia Betts, who spent much of her life in Sag Harbor as both a year-round and summer resident, died at Sem Haven, a residential care center in Milford, Ohio, on Sept. 29. She had been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease six years ago, her family said. She was 90.

Born on Nov. 16, 1923, in Greenpoint, Brooklyn, to Anthony Henaghan and the former Lillian Dursch, she grew up there and in Gerritsen Beach, Brooklyn. Her father died in a boating accident when she was 2, and her mother moved her two young daughters into their grandmother’s large house, where they lived with an extended family of her maternal relatives.

At Girls High School in Brooklyn, she excelled in her courses and was named to the Arista National Honors Society, but was too poor to attend college. Instead she went to work as a secretary for Grace Lines, the shipping company, where she was considered a top speller, stenographer, typist, and editor. Working there during World War II, she met James Betts, and they were married in Greenpoint on May 5, 1945, two days before the war in Europe ended.

They had three children, all of whom survive. They are James Betts of Brooklyn, Kathleen Betts Radziewicz of New Port Richey, Fla., and Kevin Betts of Milford.

In the 1950s the family began summering in Sag Harbor, renting at first but soon buying land on Pine Crest Lane, where they built a house. His mother loved the beach, her son said. “She believed that if you didn’t have a tan, people wouldn’t believe you’d been away.”

She returned to work when the children got older, joining the secretarial pool at Schaefer Breweries. She quickly rose in the ranks and became a private secretary to a vice president of the firm.

After the death of her husband in 1976, Mrs. Betts became private secretary to Richard Gilder, a founder of an investment firm. After she retired, she began volunteering in Sag Harbor and in New Port Richey, where she spent winters.

She always loved entertaining and dancing, her family said. Her Catholic faith and her Irish heritage were very important to her as well. Though she traveled frequently to Europe, she always avoided England. She was a member of the Rosary as well as a Columbiette.

After her illness was diagnosed she moved to the care center to be close to her son Kevin.

In addition to her three children she leaves four grandchildren and two great-grandchildren. Funeral services were held on Monday at St. Andrew’s Catholic Church in Sag Harbor; burial followed at Long Island National Cemetery, Pinelawn.

Memorial donations may be directed to Sem Haven, 22 Cleveland Avenue, Milford, Ohio 45150, or to the Alzheimer’s Association, 225 N. Michigan Avenue, Floor 17, Chicago, Ill., 60601.

 

 

Monica M. Brennan, 81

Monica M. Brennan, 81

Oct. 18, 1932 - Oct. 4. 2014
By
Star Staff

Monica M. Brennan, a former owner of the Blue Haven Motel in Montauk, died in Mountain Lakes, N.J., on Saturday, two weeks before her 82nd birthday, after a brief illness.

Mrs. Brennan and her husband, Thomas Brennan, had lived in Rockland County for 20 years, where they raised seven children. Mr. Brennan enjoyed fishing in Montauk, and they moved there in 1978, buying the Blue Haven Motel. “Montauk was the beginning of many special moments and lasting memories,” her family said.

The entire family played a part in running the motel, on West Lake Drive. “We hired almost nobody,” Steven Brennan, one of her sons, recalled, adding that his mother worked extremely hard doing myriad tasks at the motel, which stayed booked during the season. Mr. and Mrs. Brennan ran the motel for 12 years, then sold it to their son Thomas Brennan Jr., who sold it out of the family in the 1990s and moved to Florida.

Mrs. Brennan was born in the Bronx on Oct. 18, 1932, the only child of John Hausler and the former Elizabeth Dukarm. She received a degree in medical technology from St. John’s University in New York City, and worked as a medical technician before having children.

Mrs. Brennan lived on Cleveland Drive in Montauk for 36 years. Her family said she cared for and supported them throughout her life, and was active in the Montauk community. As vice president of the Friends of the Montauk Library, she coordinated its programs and took a big part in its annual book fair. She enjoyed hiking, particularly in Montauk, and was secretary of the East Hampton Trails Preservation Society. She was a member of the AARP chapter in Montauk and often spoke of a tai chi class and the friendships she formed through it. She also loved opera, dance, and gardening and traveled extensively in her later years.

Mrs. Brennan is survived by her children: Steven Brennan of York, Pa., Kathleen Denigris of Fairport, N.Y., Elizabeth LoBiondo of Mountain Lakes. Jeanne Torrenzano of Hillsborough, N.J., Thomas Brennan of Myakka City, Fla., Monica Alfonzetti of Amawalk, N.Y., and Maryellen Kim of Montauk. Nineteen grandchildren also survive. Her husband died in 1993.

Visiting hours were held yesterday at the Yardley and Pino Funeral Home in East Hampton and a Mass was scheduled for 11 a.m. today at St. Therese of Lisieux Catholic Church in Montauk, followed by burial at Fort Hill Cemetery in Montauk. Her family has suggested donations to the Animal Rescue Fund of the Hamptons, P.O. Box 901, Wainscott 11975 or the Montauk Library, P.O. Box 700, Montauk 11954.

 

Anna Dehanich, 99

Anna Dehanich, 99

July 25, 1915 - Oct. 10, 2014
By
Star Staff

Anna Dehanich died on Friday at home on Harbor Road in Amagansett, where she had lived since 2002. She was 99.

Her family said she was a caring, loving, religious person, who lived life to the fullest. “Anna was full of knowledge and wisdom,” they said.

Ms. Dehanich was born in Brooklyn on July 25, 1915, and grew up there, attending P.S. 172 and Bay Ridge High School. Her parents, John Dehanich and the former Catherine Uravich, had been married in the Austro-Hungarian Empire in 1906; they came to America three years later.

When Ms. Dehanich was 26 she went to work in Manhattan for the Radio Corporation of America, which became RCA Communications. She started out as a “comptometer” operator, before the modern calculator was invented, using a machine to multiply, divide, add, and subtract numbers, as part of her work on the company budget. She was with the company from 1941 to 1976.

In 1949, she moved from Brooklyn to Rockville Centre. Two of her three sisters followed with their families, all of them living right around the corner from each other. Ms. Dehanich, who never married, enjoyed helping her sisters raise their sons. Among her happiest memories, the family said, were her sisters’ weddings.

She enjoyed walking, too, relatives said — she never drove or owned a car. She walked to her sisters’ houses, to stores, to church, to meetings of her church groups, and to the Rockville Centre senior center.

In 2002 she moved to Amagansett to be close to her sister Margaret Fromm, who survives. She leaves six nephews including five in the Fromm family; 17 great-nieces and nephews, and 17 great-great nieces and nephews.

A wake will be held from 5 to 9 tonight at the Yardley and Pino Funeral Home in East Hampton. Mass will be said at Most Holy Trinity Catholic Church in East Hampton tomorrow at 10 a.m., with burial following at St. Charles Cemetery in Farmingdale.

The family has suggested memorial donations to East End Hospice, P.O. Box 1048, Westhampton Beach 11978.

 

 

Robert D. Mulford, Church Organist

Robert D. Mulford, Church Organist

Jan. 1, 1925 - Sept. 22, 2014
By
Star Staff

Robert D. Mulford, who served as organist and choir director of the East Hampton Methodist Church and the Springs Presbyterian Church for many years until his retirement in 2001, died of congestive heart failure on Sept. 22 at D’Youville Senior Care, the long-term nursing facility of the D’Youville Life and Wellness Community in Lowell, Mass. He was 89 and had been in declining health, his family said.

A veteran who served with the Army’s 71st Infantry Division during World War II, Mr. Mulford performed at the wedding of Gen. Dwight Eisenhower’s son while stationed at Fort Benning, in Georgia, in March 1944. Weeks later he was in the European theater, and was in Germany when the Battle of the Bulge, in which American forces suffered heavy casualties, ended in early 1945.

In addition to the East Hampton Methodist Church, where he was organist and choir director from age 16 until being drafted and again after the war,  and the Springs Presbyterian Church, he was a member of the First Baptist Church of Tewksbury in Massachusetts, where he had moved in 2001. He was also a member, organist, and past master of the Star of the East Masonic Lodge of East Hampton and organist at the Masons’ Wamponamon Lodge in Sag Harbor.

Mr. Mulford, his family said, played the organ “anywhere, anytime, for any reason,” including recitals, weddings, funerals, and Masonic meetings and events, along with weekly church services. “I did promise, in 1946 when still in the service, that I would praise the Lord with my music for as long as he let me,” Mr. Mulford said. “God has been good to me.”

Born in New York City on New Year’s Day 1925 to James Hedges Mulford and the former Sybel Marjorie Dominy, he grew up in East Hampton, attending East Hampton High School and, after the war, Westminster Choir College in Princeton, N.J.

He went to work for his father at the East Hampton Lumber and Coal Company. In 1958, he left that firm for Hildreth’s Department Store in Southampton, where he spent nine years in the men’s department. In 1967, he returned to East Hampton, where he purchased and ran the William J. LeVesconte clothing store. In the 1980s, he worked for the Southampton Lumber Company, retiring from the Montauk branch in 1988.

Mr. Mulford married Mary Helen Stockwell on Sept. 11, 1948. The couple moved to Tewksbury in 2001 to be closer to their daughter, Carolyn Loucraft. Mrs. Mulford died in 2004.

In addition to Ms. Loucraft, one granddaughter and one great-granddaughter survive. A brother, James Hedges Mulford Jr., died before him.

Mr. Mulford was cremated. Burial at Cedar Lawn Cemetery in East Hampton will be private. A memorial service was held in Tewksbury on Saturday. Another is scheduled for Oct. 25 at 11 a.m. at the Springs Presbyterian Church. The Rev. Tony Larson will officiate.

The family has suggested memorial contributions to the First Baptist Church of Tewksbury, 1500 Andover Street, Tewksbury, Mass. 01876.

 

Annette MacNiven, Athletic Ambassador

Annette MacNiven, Athletic Ambassador

Dec. 31, 1957 - Sept. 16, 2014
By
Jack Graves

Annette MacNiven, a world-class mountain-biker who competed in Xterra championships in Hawaii, California, Colorado, and Utah, and who taught swimming to I-Tri girls and members of the Hurricanes youth swim team at the Y.M.C.A. East Hampton RECenter, died on Sept. 16 at Southampton Hospital, where she was on life support. She was 56.

Her husband, Tom, said his wife of 30 years had “a strong will, and a huge heart, both physically and emotionally. Her heart was the last thing to stop.”

Ms. MacNiven was born on Dec. 31, 1957, in Albuquerque, the daughter of Manuel and Marie Alarid. Her father died when she was 2 years old.

She was reared in Fort Worth, where she met her husband-to-be after they had graduated from college, she from Texas A&M with a degree in horticulture, and he from Southern Methodist University.

They met, he said, when he “hired and trained her in 1984 to sell cable TV door to door — that was one of my first jobs out of college.” Within four months they were married, “in Albuquerque, in the presence of our two dogs and her older brother and his wife. We’d decided by then to pack all our worthless belongings up in a U-Haul and make the trip here, where my parents had had a weekend house since the mid-’60s. We took that detour to Albuquerque after Annette said, ‘Wait a minute — I’m not going unless we’re married.’ ”

Mr. MacNiven remembered it was “a freezing cold and windy April day with a bright blue sky when we arrived. Annette had never been east of the Mississippi. We were on the beach and agreeing that it was beautiful up here when she said, ‘Okay, I’ll stay.’ ”

The couple have been an integral part of East Hampton’s athletic community ever since, participating in road races, triathlons, and mountain bike races, “though, coming from Fort Worth, she had a very difficult time assimilating in New York,” he said. “She told me recently that she hadn’t felt she was a part of the community until she began coaching the Hurricanes and I-Tri girls at the Y four years ago. She loved those kids — she’d tell me all about the practices when she came home. It got so I knew all the kids without having met them.”

A runner first and foremost, Ms. MacNiven had to conquer fears of her own when it came to swimming. Evidence that she had was amply provided at the 2013 world cross (swim-bike-run) triathlon’s warm-up 1K swim in the North Sea at The Hague in the Netherlands. As hundreds bailed out, she was among the few who braved huge waves and 20-knot winds the entire way.

“Tom said he couldn’t believe it,” she said in recounting the event for The Star. “After that, I was ready for anything.”

Some of their best times, Mr. MacNiven said, “were when we’d go with the Cashin brothers, Ed and Kyle, and David Brauer and Mary Scheerer, Shari Hymes, and Nancy Lipira to the 24-hour mountain bike races in Canaan, W.Va., along with a full complement of cooks, masseuses, managers, mechanics, and kids.”

Ms. MacNiven gravitated to Xterra’s rigorous mountain bike races about a decade ago, “because it was more fun for her than racing on the roads,” he said. “It was never important for her to win. She wanted to, but that wasn’t it. She wanted to be there and finish, she wanted to compete with everybody and with herself. She was an Xterra ambassador — there are only a few in each region. Her job was to make the new people welcome.”

Mr. MacNiven also said his wife “never stopped — she had a work ethic like nobody I’ve ever known. Literally, she rebuilt all of our houses, here and in Colorado. She wore the tool belt. You’d want to stay away when she had power tools in her hands.”

Besides her husband, Ms. MacNiven, who took her own life, leaves a son, Casey, and a daughter, Cory; her mother, Marie Baca, and stepfather, Benjamin Baca, of Fort Worth; two brothers, Albert Alarid of Albuquerque and Steven Baca of Cleburne, Tex., and two sisters, Lorraine Cox of Fort Worth and Patricia Baca of Mansfield, Tex. Two other siblings, Andrew Alarid and Benjamin Baca, predeceased her. She is also survived by a grandson, Carter MacNiven, and by five nephews and three nieces.

A celebration of her life is to be held at the MacNivens’ house at 7 Knoll Lane in Wainscott on Saturday at 4 p.m.

Donations may be sent to Theresa Roden’s I-Tri girls program at P.O. Box 567, East Hampton 11937, or may be made online through I-Tri’s website.

 

 

Frances Starr Todd

Frances Starr Todd

By
Star Staff

Frances Starr Todd, a teacher and philanthropist who spent summers in East Hampton, died on Aug. 28 at home in Far Hills, N.J. She was 73 and had cancer.

She was married to John Todd, whose grandparents were among the first families to build summer houses on Dunemere Lane in East Hampton. The couple lived there for a time, her daughter, Mary Starr Todd Ganzenmuller, said. She later lived on Buell Lane in a house that became a gathering place for several generations of the family.

Mrs. Todd was a volunteer at the Y.W.C.A. in New York City, teaching women “workplace readiness.” She also taught young women who were returning to school for General Educational Development degrees and at Columbia’s School of General Studies.

Born on May 28, 1941, to Louis and Abbey Starr, she graduated from Foxcroft School and Columbia University. She will be remembered as “a strong advocate for the importance of learning, especially for young women returning to school,” her family said. “She was a patient but demanding teacher, with a quick mind and definite opinions, but always ready to listen and try new approaches.”

An enthusiastic painter, her subjects were golf courses, beaches, and landscapes around East Hampton, and she sold her work at Guild Hall’s Clothesline Arts Sale. She was a member of the Maidstone Club, the Ladies Village Improvement Society, and Guild Hall, and she volunteered with the Animal Rescue Fund of the Hamptons.

Other cultural and community organizations she was committed to included the Metropolitan Opera, the Lower East Side Girls Club, Poets and Writers, Harlem Academy, and the River and Plains Society. She attended the East Hampton Presbyterian Church and the Lamington Presbyterian Church in New Jersey.

“Her passion for art and music was contagious, and she was more than generous in sharing those loves with others. This was exemplified in her hands-on support for causes she believed in, always focusing on making a difference in the lives of those she benefited,” her family said.

Mrs. Todd’s husband died in 1988, as did a brother, Dillwyn Starr.

In addition to her daughter, who lives in Oldwick, N.J., she is survived by a son, Christopher Bray Todd of Peapack, N.J., and five great-grandchildren.

Memorial contributions can be made to the L.V.I.S. at 95 Main Street, East Hampton 11937, or the Animal Rescue Fund of the Hamptons, P.O. Box 901, Wainscott 11975.