The More The Merrier At the Wards': Twenty kids and counting
The More The Merrier At the Wards': Twenty kids and counting

"What's one more?" is Louise Ward's frequent response to requests: Can someone come over to play, join in a car trip, or stay for dinner? An extra body is no big deal to Ms. Ward, who is the mother of 18 children, and a legal guardian to two, with ages ranging from 2 to 30.
When a family is over five times larger than the national average, just one of those meals can be impressive. Case in point: On a rainy Yom Kippur last Thursday most of the kids were hanging around the house on their day off from school, and for lunch Ms. Ward used up three loaves of bread.
A visit to McDonald's, a family favorite, can be a logistical challenge. "It scares people when we go inside," said Ms. Ward. Instead she will pull up the 17-seat family van - it can fit 18 people when the family uses its "illegal squeeze" maneuver - to the drive-through and order between $47 and $67 worth of food.
"They usually mess up our order and we get extra stuff," said David Ward, who goes to the East Hampton Middle School.
Though life seems to be an endless spiderweb of Boy Scouts, sports, work, chores, and community service from an outsider's perspective, it seems normal for those in the clan.
Ms. Ward and her husband, Steve, a carpenter, come from large families. Ms. Ward was one of seven children, and Mr. Ward was one of 12. The idea of having a large family was never a foreign one.
"The last time the two of us were alone was 30 years ago. We never, ever have an empty house," Ms. Ward said.
Some of the Wards' children are adopted, although Ms. Ward declines to say how many. "There is such a need, but it's not an effort for us," she said. "You just cook a bigger meal, and do more of the same."
Mr. and Ms. Ward were always willing to take in children. "We used to do foster parenting," she said. "We took the Suffolk County Department of Human Services courses. We fostered 48 kids."
Currently there are 16 family members, from 2-year-old Katalina through 23-year-old Chris, living at the eight-bedroom Ward house in Northwest Woods. "I always have someone in diapers. I thought I was done with diapers 15 years ago," said Ms. Ward. "Well, what are you going to do?"
Six children have moved out of the house, but their presence remains. All the children's pictures are displayed on virtually every surface of the house: Tiffany, Matthew, Big Nicholas, Robby, Chris, Shawn, Antwon, Lucus, David, Steven, Nicky, Kaelyn, Samantha, Sadie, Alexis, Thomas, Quincy, and Katalina, and Will and Tammy, who have the Wards as legal guardians, all smile in images throughout the house.
"You're never lonely, you might want a little bit of privacy. But if you want to have a baseball game, we can field two teams," said Ms. Ward.
"You always have someone to play with," said David.
Sports are a center of life in the Ward house. The kids not only play the usual spate of baseball, basketball, and soccer, but also make up their own games with increasingly intricate rules. They also keep the seven cats and two dogs on guard.
"You have to be substantial to be in this house. We have nothing that can't defend itself." Ms. Ward said. "I don't do reptiles or birds."
Ms. Ward also has three fish tanks, but only two were in use last Thursday after an unfortunate bologna incident killed off several of her saltwater species.
Driving the kids to all of their after-school activities, which include dancing, sports, theater groups, and community service projects, can be like solving a puzzle. Every day the kids write their commitments on a large white board off the kitchen. Then Ms. and Mr. Ward do their best to get everyone where they're supposed to go.
Sometimes it requires a little bit of carpooling, but usually there isn't a problem. Mr. Ward also is the head of the East Hampton Boy Scouts. Six of his sons are scouts.
Sports are not the only given among the Ward kids. "All my kids are going to go to college. They might have to get loans, but we will help them as much as we can," Ms. Ward said.
Shawn, who is in 10th grade, is the next child to apply to college. Already he has been courted by Brown University in Providence, R.I., and Johns Hopkins University in Baltimore for his academics.
But the one way that the kids describe life in the house, is fun. Not only is there someone to play with, there is always something to celebrate. Birthdays come at least once a month. "We are official birthday central," said Ms. Ward.
In her spare time Ms. Ward makes wedding decorations. She supplied them for her two sons' weddings and for several friends and neighbors. The entire family gets involved in making them.
Without an upcoming birthday, and with no weddings in the near future, last Thursday's thoughts turned toward what to do for Halloween.
"We're going to do a big job decorating," said David. "Tell people to come to our house."